Why Recovery Groups?

Addiction is a topic of concern around our country; it is estimated that over 30 million Americans struggle with various addictions including drug, alcohol, gambling and sex addiction. Joining a recovery group can be one of the most important and effective ways...

Valentine’s Day: Blues or Cheers?

Every year around Valentine’s Day, advertisers inundate us with images of people celebrating love. For instance, a 30-second commercial for a diamond retailer highlights a man, on bended knee, proposing to his girlfriend. Pier bystanders look on with curiosity...

Disclosure After Infidelity Part III: Emotional Restitution Letter

You’ve done the hard work of the full therapeutic disclosure and the emotional impact letter, and are now arriving at the third and final stop of the therapeutic disclosure process – the emotional restitution letter. This step, like its predecessors, is a...

Shame Messages: Negative Core Beliefs

Shame & guilt are universal emotions that we have all experienced. The best way to distinguish between guilt & shame is this — guilt says “Woops, I did something wrong, I did something bad.” Shame says “I am bad, there is something...

Co-Addiction vs. Trauma Informed Treatment for Betrayed Partners

In the early days of sex addiction treatment, clinicians took a copy + paste approach from successful substance abuse treatment protocols and applied it to sex addiction treatment. While some of this was (and remains) helpful for treating addiction, it unfortunately...