A Tool of Recovery: (BA)HALT

I appreciate the practicality of the tools used by 12 step-groups such as Alcoholics Anonymous or Sex Addicts Anonymous. The tools help in establishing consistent sobriety, which is the basic foundation upon which all subsequent growth depends.  How important are...

Let’s Talk About Married Sex: Keeping it Spicy in the Bedroom

In preparation for our Sexpectations conference coming up this month, our April blogs will be focused around different stages and phases of healthy sexuality. Newlywed sex.  This is an exciting, passionate, intimate adventurous season of sexual exploration and...

Lapse vs. Relapse

A lapse or relapse is a dysregulation of neurochemicals, a return to old behaviors.  We hear the terms lapse and relapse used often in reference to people who use substances.  But we can also apply it to other behaviors, such as acting out in rage or anger,...

Disclosure After Infidelity Part II: Emotional Impact Letter

After a disclosure of infidelity or sex addiction, a couple may choose to complete the difficult and important process of the full disclosure. Disclosure day is painful for both partners and can stir up a lot of difficult emotions. The final two parts of the...