Emotional Expression through the Lifespan

  When we are born as babies, the only way we can express ourselves is through screaming. For the first couple years of our lives, this continues to be the way we communicate our needs to our parents and caretakers. As we grow and learn how to speak, we cry less...

The 3 Essential Parts of Forgiveness

Recently my church community has been focusing on forgiveness – what does it mean that we are forgiven and what does it look like to be a forgiving people? It’s a challenging process, and one that’s been rattling around in my head quite a bit...

Shame Messages: Negative Core Beliefs

Shame & guilt are universal emotions that we have all experienced. The best way to distinguish between guilt & shame is this — guilt says “Woops, I did something wrong, I did something bad.” Shame says “I am bad, there is something...

The Power of Affirmations

We are often our worst critics, judging ourselves more harshly than we would others. It is often easier to extend grace and compassion to friends and family than it is to ourselves. The messages we tell ourselves often perpetuate lies that root from shame, our...

My therapist had to make a report….now what?

If you’ve been to therapy, you may recall that your therapist will remind you that everything that is said in therapy stays confidential, with a few important exceptions. These are the limits of confidentiality, the areas that your therapist is legally required...